Why do you suppose so many people make New Year’s Resolutions every January 1st…and then a majority of people give up on them by April 1st? I am writing this in the end of February, the gym is still packed when I go in and I have to be at least 20 minutes early for any class just to get a spot. In a couple of months, however, I would be able to run in last minute and find a prime spot. Why IS that? So I have been doing some research…stats are that only 8% of people actually achieve their New Year’s resolutions (according to Statistic Brain Research Institute). 45% of Americans USUALLY makes resolutions. 38% NEVER make resolutions and the rest fall somewhere in between. Look at the other data:
|Type of Resolutions (Percent above 100% because of multiple resolutions)||Data|
|Self Improvement or education related resolutions||47%|
|Weight related resolutions||38%|
|Money related resolutions||34%|
|Relationship related resolutions||31%|
|Age Success Rates||Data|
|Percent of people in their twenties who achieve their resolution each year||39%|
|Percent of people over 50 who achieve their resolution each year||14%|
The top 10 resolutions are:
|Rank||Top 10 New Years resolutions for 2015|
|3||Spend Less, Save More|
|4||Enjoy Life to the Fullest|
|5||Staying Fit and Healthy|
|6||Learn Something Exciting|
|8||Help Others in Their Dreams|
|9||Fall in Love|
|10||Spend More Time with Family|
So what does all this mean? Look at the top 3 “goals” and top 3 types of resolutions – No wonder people can get discouraged! Those are all life altering things to achieve. You can feel so very encouraged and happy when the scale shows that pounds are starting to drop, when your garage, closets or home are nice and tidy and when you see your bank account balance increase. Anyone who has worked on these things knows the proud feeling of victory as well as the awful feeling of setback.
Also, take a look at the age success rate – does that go along with “you can’t teach a dog new tricks”? Why does the younger generation have higher success at achieving their goals?
The number one reason for quitting? Discouragement! It can stop us from achieving what we set out to do…unless we SET OUR MINDS and KEEP THEM SET.
Our minds are so powerful that we play scenarios over and over until we have convinced ourselves that they are real. We can talk ourselves into (and out of) anything – daily. You can wake up in a great mood or a horrible mood and choose how your day will go. How are you encouraging yourself?
I love researching the mind and how it works because it is the key to success in every area of our lives. I am not talking about the BRAIN – I am talking about the MIND. When you set your mind to something whether it is losing weight, organizing, or saving money, then every choice you make needs to put you closer to that goal. Decisions we make each day either will bring us victory or regret.
People we surround ourselves with will either drain us or energize us. Have you ever spent time with a friend and you were more happy and uplifted when you left than when you arrived? Those are the types of people we need to be and surround ourselves with! Not that everything is perfect or you are looking at the world through rose colored glasses, but that you CHOOSE to be positive and do what feeds your spirit in a meaningful way If I am working on consuming no sugar then I have to walk by the Halloween candy! If I am getting up at 4am to have quiet time and go to the gym then I have to be in bed asleep by 9pm the night before. If I am choosing to save money then I have to spend less and think twice about the places I choose to shop.
The thing about our minds is that they are OUR minds and no one else is in control of what we fill it with. Just like you cannot force anyone to set their minds to something, you cannot be forced either. The pain of change has to be less than the pain of staying the same for some to achieve their goals. What is it worth to you to see your goals come to fruition? You cannot control how someone else will act, or what decisions THEY will make. You can only control your own behavior and thinking. Choose to fill your mind with uplifting things and encourage other people. I am constantly reading, listening to and watching uplifting messages and finding something to focus on each day or week that will bring me closer to my goals.
You have a lot to offer, and a purpose for being here. We only have one life, one chance! How are you going to make a difference? We cannot make a powerful impact when we are discouraged and quitting on our goals. I challenge you to break out of the mold – find someone to encourage today. It will make a difference not only for them but also for you. Too many people are “basement people” wanting to hold you back or pull you down. I choose to be and surround myself with people who lift me up and encourage me just in the way they live! They are called “balcony people” and that’s how I choose to live my life – will you join me?
Some great books that have encouraged me are:
- The Bible
- Chicken Soup for the Soul series by Jack Canfield, Mark Victor Hansen, Jennifer Read Hawthorne and Marci Shimoff
- The One Minute Manager by Ken Blanchard and Spencer Johnson (More Success with Less Stress)
- Rich Dad Poor Dad by Robert Kiyosaki
- A Year of Growing Rich by Napoleon Hill (also Think and Grow Rich)
- My Nets Yet To Drop by Steven Randolph (very challenging book on letting go of things that hold you back).
Give me a call if you are facing challenges and want someone to talk with who can provide the lift you may need.